Let’s talk about the elephant in the room – sex in relationships. Is it a big deal? Well, it depends. For some folks, it’s like the glue that holds everything together. For others, it’s more like a bonus feature. You’re in a relationship, and things are going great; you love and support each other through thick and thin. But then there’s the question of sex.
For many couples in relationships or marriage, sex isn’t just about getting physical. It’s a way to express love, desire, and all the deep feelings to their partners. It’s like a special language only the two of you understand. When you’re intimate with someone, it creates a deep connection that’s hard to explain.
Plus, there’s the whole biology thing. Your body releases all these feel-good hormones like oxytocin and endorphins. They’re like little love potions that make you feel closer to your partner. Not to mention, sex can be a pretty good workout too – who needs a gym membership when you’ve got each other, right?.
Why is Sex and Intimacy Important in Relationships?
Research shows that having more sex can be good for couples’ well-being (mentally and physically). It can help lower stress, reduce blood pressure, and make you feel closer to each other. We see couples often asking anonymously on podcasts and reality shows “But how often should we be doing it?” Well, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Studies have revealed some insight that might help you, but the onus is on you to find out from your partner their opinions on sex.
Here are a few reasons sex is important in relationships.
Physical Intimacy and Connection
According to experts, sex is a way for partners to physically connect on a deep, personal level. This physical touch releases oxytocin, which we like to call the “bonding hormone,” because it makes you feel closer and more attached to your partner. This connection isn’t just skin-deep; it strengthens the emotional bond between you.
Needs and Desires
We all have needs, and when those needs are met—especially the ones that make us feel loved and desired—there’s this sense of satisfaction, contentment, and happiness. Being able to express yourself sexually and have your partner respond in kind is very important in the relationship. When your partner sees you, wants you, and you’re exactly what they need, it’s a pretty amazing feeling.
Communication and Vulnerability
Let’s face it, talking about sex isn’t always easy, but sex makes communication easier. It requires a level of openness and vulnerability that can be scary. But when you can have those conversations—about what you like, what you don’t, and everything in between—it’s like building a bridge between you and your partner. It deepens the trust and intimacy in your relationship, and it spills over into other areas of your life.
Sometimes, words just aren’t enough to express how you feel about someone. Sex and intimacy are also a way to show your partner just how much they mean to you and remind you both of the love and commitment you share.
Stress Reduction and Well-Being
Life can be stressful, but sex is like a mini-vacation from all that. When you’re caught up in the moment, feeling the rush of endorphins and other good hormones, all your anxieties melt away.
Of course, no relationship is perfect, sometimes there’s a lot of tension and frustration from poor communication, mismatched libidos, performance anxiety, or unresolved issues from the past, and sex can be a source of temporary deflation for these tensions.
But that might not necessarily mean it’s the solution. Having some tough conversations or seeking help from a professional is the best solution if you’re in this kind of situation.
Our Takeaway
Let’s not forget, not everyone is on the same page when it comes to sex. Some couples might not be as invested in going at it every second of the day, and that’s okay. At the end of the day, every relationship is different. Some couples work demanding jobs and are often stressed, tired, or just not feeling it anymore at that point in the relationship. That’s where healthy communication comes in.
Talking about sex can feel awkward, but it’s super important. Your partner needs to know what you’re into, what you’re not into, and where your boundaries are. And if you’re having any issues; whether it’s physical or emotional. There’s no shame in reaching out for help, always visit a relationship coach or therapist when things get a bit out of your control.
